Blog 94: the real meaning of 'sacrifice'...

a very simple question but it's very difficult to answer without being a hypocrite.. am i talking nonsense? mengarutkah aku di pagi hari ni? hmm...

the word sacrifice itself it very vague.. what would be deemed good enough to be considered a 'sacrifice'? doing something we hate or we don't like just because it's our responsibility to do so? having to shoulder huge demand from people around us who thought that it's our job so do something or to solve something or to give something, day in day out, 24/7...

the interesting thing to ponder is adakah segala pengorbanan ini berbaloi? adakah apa yang kita buat orang akan ingat? but then again, perlukah kita sibuk nak pastikan orang mesti ingat apa yang kita buat?

yup, i agree... we can choose to look away, to pretend that it's not our responsibility; on the first place, to be the one to cover up everything, to make sure that things will go smoothly, to uphold the family name and reputation, to make sure our loved ones are always smiling...

but at what cause? to be criticized for not having anything but in reality you used up everything you have for the others to achieve what they have now? forgetting what you want in life because you are so busy making sure of the well beings of the other people around you?

a lot of people choose to be hypocrites... classic statements like "la, ade problem ke? knape tak bagitau?" or "kalau korang tak bagitau memang sumpah aku tak perasan"... oh.. come on! you will KNOW if your loved ones around you are in dire need of assistance of any sort... if you don't realize anything, you are either blind, deaf or just plain stupid or ignorant.. personally, i would say stupid.... just because that would make more sense...

as for me, if i start to complain or whine or ungkitkan semua bende yang aku dah buat untuk orang lain, that is not 'sacrifice' anymore.. dah lari konsep, dah jadik riak... sorilah stament emo tapi pada aku memang betul pun.. bila kita buat sesuatu untuk orang, tapi tak habis-habis beritahu semua 'pengorbanan' kita dengan harapan orang ingat, itu dah salah nawaitu...

yup, people will remember... remember how pathetic a*****e you are, most importantly...

if you sincerely want to help someone, beri bantuan sebelum orang tersebut datang meminta bantuan pada kita, kalau kita memang sedar orang itu memerlukan bantuan kita... tak kan bende simple macam ni pun tak boleh nak faham?

kalau lah betul pun kita tak perasan, atau terlepas pandang, atau memang tak pernah ambil kisah pun... bila ade orang datang minta bantuan kita cubalah rasa bangga dan terharu kerana orang tersebut percaya pada kita untuk membantu dia menyelesaikan masalah dia...

kalau kita mampu, bantulah setakat yang boleh... kalau tak mampu, cuba fikirkan jalan sekali untuk membantu  orang tersebut.. ni kan peluang Allah bagi untuk kita tambah pahala dalam akaun kita...

tapi kalau awal-awal kita dah fikir yang orang ni nak ambil kesempatan, nak tumpang kesenangan kita... that's why i said it's easier to be hypocrites... pretending that we couldn't do anything to help padahal ada 1001 bentuk bantuan yang boleh kita beri... yang lebih dashyat... we do help, reluctantly.. and then we whine and we pinpoint every single thing that we do, hoping that people will know and realize how 'generous' we are... great, simply superb!

manusia2 ini boleh tidur nyenyak setiap malam kan? pelik.....